How To Heal Over 20 Years Of Family Feuds In An Instant
June 13th, 2011 | Blog, Slider | admin | 3 CommentsYesterday must have been one of the best days of my life since I gave birth to my two daughters.
Have you ever lost connection with a family member because of some silly family feud that has gone on so long you don’t even know what the feud was all about?
I want to share a story with you that I hope will give you some inspiration to healing any incomplete family relationships.
One of the benefits of being raised by really young parents that separated when I was two was that I had a lot of family influences growing up.
One of the main influence in my life was my Uncle Dan (my Dad’s older Brother). He was single and didn’t have any children of his own, so when my Mom was off dating other men and my Father had his second family, my Uncle Dan became my solid rock in my life and to be honest spoiled me rotten. He referred to me as his “Princess” and treated like one too. We travelled to Hawaii and Disneyland frequently where I have many fond memories. My time with my Uncle Dan was a precious treat and although I likely took it for granted when I was a child, I grew up appreciating the traits I acquired from him.
He was a very savvy entrepreneurial business man as well as a bit of a techno geek. He bought me my first computer…a Commodore 64…do you remember those? He taught me how to use DOS and I remember a lot of my time spent with him was at the office where I would play on the computer doing speed typing games…I think I was 9. To this day I credit much of my entrepreneurial spirit and my own techno geek tendencies to him.
My Grandmother was a very smart business woman and built a successful long term care business that she passed down to my Uncle and Father. They ran it together for years, but eventually brotherly feuds over business led to them splitting their business. Not long after that my Uncle met the woman he would marry, who is now his wife, and it seems since then the family was split as well. There was no more communication between my Uncle and my Dad or myself. I know there was some specific feud, but it was so long ago I really don’t even know what it was about. I think it has been going on for 20 years.
Over the years I have made many attempts to reconnect with him. I would stop by his office, I would send him cards including Christmas and Birthday cards every year but most attempts to reconnect were diverted by his wife. The last attempt I made to contact him his wife told me quite clearly to stop any further attempts. I was devastated to say the least. My husband who I have known for 18 years and my 2 girls have never met… Read More
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